When I was pregnant with my first son all I could imagine and dream about was becoming a mother. I wasn’t sad, emotional or upset for a second even though we were going through a complete home renovation, I was nine months pregnant and we were in the middle of a crazy heat-wave. However, I did experience the baby blues postpartum. With my second pregnancy, I didn’t experience any emotional ups or down during pregnancy or postpartum. So why the sudden change in feelings? I honestly don’t know, but I do know that I’m now a “wiser” parent. I know what to expect and what the near future holds in store for me. Sleepless nights, long days, managing the schedules of a baby, toddler and preschooler, managing the house, meals, etc… I’m also worried about sharing the love. Will my oldest child be jealous that he’s in school while I’m home with his siblings? Will my middle child feel abandoned and left on the sidelines? He’ll only be 19 months when I give birth, still a “baby” himself. I know that we have lots of love to give to each one of our kids, but will they feel that way?
I guess the only way I’m able to deal with this stress and worry is by crying. I’ve been crying a lot lately. Sometimes I lose it in front of my kids because I just can’t handle it anymore, and sometimes in front of my husband and sometimes while I’m alone. It’s not my greatest moment, but I can’t help it and I’m not ashamed of it. It’s a natural response and instead of fighting it, I let the tears flow. In fact, there are some known benefits of crying including:
- Washing toxic chemicals (linked to stress) out of our bodies
- Provides a psychological benefit of lifting our mood and helping us to deal with painful situations.
So with that, I encourage my fellow moms, new or experienced, to cry once in a while if you need to. Instead of hiding our tears, we should embrace them, appreciate them, applaud them and reach out to a friend in need. Tears often signal a need for affection such as a hug or a shoulder to lean on. Sometimes, that’s all we really need to move on.
Did you find that you were more emotional when pregnant or postpartum?
Maya Fitzpatrick is a SAHM of two very high-energy boys with a third on the way. She blogs about the ups & downs of parenting, their family travel adventures, health & wellness tips, and family-friendly product reviews & giveaways. Join her and her family on this crazy, yet fun, adventure they call life at www.mayahoodblog.com.